Remember November

New moon is 27th of October bringing with it two progressive weeks before the Xmas bent really starts to set in. As such we will see how these two weeks, especially this year, will be real action packed. November, the month of relationship trust issues as one bunks down for the maximum of the seasons antics. Looks like a real soap opera this year as everything is still so heavy or 'controlled'. In the affairs of state we can clearly see this with the ANC trying to politicise near on everything as opposed to actually settling to the tasks at hand. In this environment, someone is lying, its just who that's the question.

It looks like November the 1st will be a potentially rather foul day, akin in many ways to October 2004. With that lets break off into how these days will affect the various member of your household or world in general.

Daddy banker is still the man in control playing the role of the silent dragon this month. He still has the whole floor more than attentively aware of his massive dispensation toward stability and upholding the status quo. See European banking measures as parallel here to the amount of subtle control the father currently wields in many a situation. Everybody else's world pivots on big ol papas shoulders, regardless of how much the family has been broken down over the last few decades. If i were fibbing here, we would not be in a recession right now, facts are facts. The cosmetic frills decorate the cake, they are not nor will never be the substance of the cake. Just like the old man south africa, as historic, slowly setting himself down as the cosmetic infrastructure really starts to fail and we all slowly realise that we are indeed living in Africa. A veritable fact, however much we attempt to negate it.

As for moms massive momentum through this year. Coming into contact with the behemoth of a wall street reality. As with SA's DA va ANC tussling, we all know there is history, but who would Helen Zille or Patricia de Lille and now be if not for standing up to their histories!? Lindiwe Mazibuko is the woman now in the headlights that brings up the images of the mettle required to traverse these formidable 'draconian' obstacles. Momentum, gravity, pressure, no amount of force, explosion or demonstration are going to shake the beast that represses you. I still see much angst for the moms who have been in particularly pressing positions this year already. By September this year the progress that had already stalled, further anxieties will focus now around 30th, 31st Oct and the 1st of November for your group.

For the boys and girls, well its becoming a real torrid affair as we have seen over the last few months. Apparently i have been rather accurate of late regards the young girls penchant for showing up mom and dad when it comes to loose relationships. Frankly i find it rather obvious that kids are showing up their divorced parents. The war of the generations subconsciously rages on and our kids will definitely show us up as they have age on their side. The scary part is that in many instances, its literally a case of the youngster trying to win mom or dads approval. I.e. Look mom, it's ok, as a women of the house i can also pick up guys. Which yes, i mean, the audacity of it all to think your kid is actually trying to show you up in that context. Wake up to the very reality that the kids try fill our gaps. Either divorced couples are sleeping at the wheel regards commitment, or really what channel were we on when we pick that man in the first place!? Leaving the partnership is a failing, but our literal expectations were so unreal in the first place? Where is the middle line? The your kids are picking this up lesson after lesson and applying it party after party. Point being, the young females seem adamant at this stage and will apply as much coercion as necessary.

With regards to the lads dealings in the matter, i don't think the truth is currently possible between either of these two. If you ask me he is lying to save her. She is lying to protect the illusion of the perception of the parents divorced control oriented reality. Neither of them will tell the whole truth and he just can't believe this is the young girls modern reality.

Really, i see one heck of a period up ahead regards the philanderings of the kids, as i have been accurate here prior i expect to be again now! Fact is it our issue as parents, not societies. As we allow them to be eaten alive by media content impressing a popular reality on them. One which really bears little resemblance to real life where your husband actually snores, partners age, curiosity wanes and entropy eternally requests repair of your physical goodies. Realities that actually require commitment and perseverance, not just a new upgrade on an old package.

The great trust debate

Hi again folks, happy entrance into Pisces the eternal soap opera. Around this time we expect Social deceit or trust issues to be in the greater air somewhat. This is no far stretch when you consider a whole 3weeks of revolutionary protests in Egypt just to be hijacked by the military. In general, don't let the gossip of others set you back, some folks just have nothing better to do and will hardly change in such instance. Lets proceed character by character then as per regular.

Dad still seems to be on the back foot, holding his ground somewhat on various decisions. If anything he is going to get a little moodier or somewhat quieter over the next few weeks. Don't assume that to mean all is well or acceptable, he may simply be allowing folks to fasten their own nooses as such. Which all in all is one of father times best tools in his kit box. We may run and we may hide, we may portend to all sorts of self importance, time will tell more than any loud mouth or avarice. Especially n conditions such as these, what with the recession still in play and all, the tortoise is truly king.

Then for the women, mothers and female employers. Wow, what a time at present. Anxiety could be one of the chief elements really at present to be concerned regards. All the energy from mid 2010 could have returned and as such having a rocket pack on ones back will always make for somewhat a grimace on the face. The pointers are, yes progress, but no haste, allow elements to fall into place rather as really pressing ahead so is just giving others the impression that you are not too sure of all your noble intentions. In most situations the person in control is the one who talks and acts the least. Kinda like father time manner, never about, but in minimal ways, then one day,. plops, his final curtain call and well, who's the boss at that stage. So really, this i currently a bit like the Egyptian people threatening the Military rule that has been bandied over them. What can they actually do about it at this stage. As with last year the bases are loaded. Deal with it creatively, not forcefully as there is an extra factor that will emerge 13 March arounds that will hopefully be in your favour, well depending on how many folks you have burn't till this stage. I think in all of this we can see the new IFP being formed by Zanele Magwaza-Msibi. Classically she fits this description of late and thence many a woman can find her trials to be of solace regards their own.

The young girls, sisters, girlfriends etc. My word are they on some sort of anti authoritarian mission from hell at present? First she was anti Mom and raising all fury there, now she appears to be anti Dad this last week, although with less fury it would seem. Seems to be very selfish, possibly maturing, but initially there is simply too much anxiety and gumpf which must come forth peer group wants. In other circumstances we could be seeing young girls rising out of some very dark circumstances, responsibly taking up the challenges and really, against all odds coming into her own over this period, i surely hope so. Funny how the predictions are different for the 'wealthy' vs the 'poor', for the poor its always a case of actually developing further personal mettle, for the wealthy its often just sloth, malice and spite. So much for civility.

Then regard the young guys, boyfriends and sons in general. We have the trust issue debate flying its colours across the sky. He is about to become somewhat subdued as amidst the group of friends, male friends, there are comments surfacing that could make him really try his own way for a while. Music and the arts could fill his time for a while now in his purgatory of solitude. This should be obviously encouraged as he can walk out of this phase a far more whole individual relying on others to a far lesser extent for his individual worth.

Till next time, do take care and follow dion786 on Twitter if you like. I post more day to day sorts of commentary there, oriented at ironing out the creases in our daily lives.